I like the post, but one thing to be clear is that we need to be careful about the words that we use.

Just because there’s a term for it doesn’t mean that you are a victim of it. For instance, my good friend Edward, the moment he heard that there’s such a term as “gaslighting,” he’s been thinking about only one thing — that he’s the most severe victim of gaslighting. I couldn’t recall a sentence without the term gaslighting in it.

Since then, Edward has been telling the world that he’s been "gaslighted" by this person, and that person, to the point that there’s nothing left on his life that isn’t about his being gaslighted. It’s like “gaslighting” is the word and that his life is all about it. There’s a concept in Neuro-Linguistic Process (NLP) that explains how words like gaslighting inject the feeling of being a victim in a PTSD-like state into a person. I wish no one had ever said to him that word. Edward is now going in and out of rehab — just because of one word, one word.

Yes, I have an issue with how we use, come up, and coin terms to explain things, but sometimes things are not that simple. I remember how I also felt deeply resonate with the term "Kafka-esque" (yes, when I was unreasonably bullied as in Kafka's many novels) but I got over it as I was able to put myself in the shoes of those who bullied me. They did it deliberately, but the sense of humanity got me thinking a lot about how I behaved to trigger such a demon in those people as well. How many times in life that a person is in all possession of knowledge to say that something is this or that?