I like the post, but one thing to be clear is that we need to be careful about the words that we use. Yes, I am not particularly fond of the term "gaslighting."

Just because there’s a term for it doesn’t mean that you are a victim of it.

For instance, my good friend Edward, the moment he heard that there’s such a term as “gaslighting,” he’s been thinking about only one thing — that he’s the most severe victim of gaslighting. I couldn’t recall any of his sentence without the term "gaslighting" in it.

Ed has been telling the world, ever since, that he’s been gaslighted by this person, and that person, to the point that there’s nothing left on his life that isn’t about his being gaslighted. It's like Edward doesn't exist — what exists is his being a victim. I am on Edward's side most of the time, but there're many times that he also "gaslighted" other people (okay, now I am using that the too) — he would laugh at other people's attempts to be intelligent just because he has a better command of English and probably a better locus of control when it comes to using strawman and ad hominem arguments in debating. Anyhow, he's suffering. It’s like “gaslighting” is the word and that his life is all about it. There’s a concept in Neuro-Linguistic Process (NLP) that explains how words like gaslighting inject the feeling of being a victim in a PTSD-like state into a person.

I wish no one had ever said that word — to him.